Lewis’s Legacy Little Lives Matter 

Wow a very interesting article I came across and something I have done myself with a muslin!

This particular mother lost her baby son and has committed to helping others. 

This article on baby safety while sleeping in a pram during summer or out in the sun is extremely important to remember!

Did you know that by placing a blanket or muslin over your babies pram while asleep in their pram increases the temperature inside raising the temperature to dangerous levels just like a car causing baby to overheat and possibly death!!! 

If you ever see someone doing the same in hot weather in summer warm them to save a little persons life. 

Lewis’s Legacy Little Lives Matter

Mom shares heartbreaking death of Son to educate others on car seat safety

Wow. This is so sad but also a really great eye opener on car seat safety. Something I’m glad I took the time to invest in because nothing means more to me than the safety of our daughters life. 

5 point car seats are the best. We bought a Britax Römer Dualfix and it’s amazing and comfortable too.  So easy to keep clean as well. 

Mom shares heartbreaking death of son to educate others in car seat safety

The Case Against Ferber Sleep Training

I think we have been truly blessed with a little girl who sleeps really well. We count our blessing every day for such a content, healthy, happy little girl. 

I know friends and family that have little ones that have medical reasons for not sleeping well or that have never sleept through the night. I know that this causes many issues, like stress and postpartum depression, all the sleep deprivation leads to pure exhaustion and therefore parents become desperate and will try anything to get their child to sleep or sleep through the night. 

The truth is we as adults don’t sleep through the night and wake many times but are able to fall asleep again. We wake for water, to use the loo, a loud sound, too hot, too cold you get the idea. So why do we expect a baby to sleep through? 

I used my own method to teach our  daughter to fall asleep on her own. I used to hold her or rock her to sleep when she was a newborn. I read that falling asleep is something you can teach them to do from 6 months onwards. Sleeping through is also something they do themselves when they are mentally able to do so. So I used to rock her until she was drowsy and then put her down in her cot and pat her bum for a few minutes and then sit in the rocking chair in her room until she fell asleep. So she could see me and knew I was with her and eventually she would fall asleep on her own. If she fussed or moaned I would give it a minute or two and then pick her up if my attempts to calm and reassure her by telling her shhh… it’s sleepy time my love and start again if she didn’t settle by picking her up calming her down rocking tillshe was calm then stop rocking and put her back down in her cot. Sometimes she was hungry and would go down after nursing or giving her a bottle now that she is older and no longer breastfed. I never let her get worked up or cry for longer than a couple minutes because I know it would only take longer for her to fall asleep because the cortisol hormone increases in her system, making it harder to fall asleep. As well as all the other health issues mentioned in the article.  

She is generally pretty good at falling asleep on her own and sleeping through the night which she did on her own but there days that she won’t fall asleep on her own, except in my arms against my chest. In my opinion she is just a baby and only once too and obviously just needs comfort from me as she may not be feeling well, going through a mental leap, which I have mentioned in a previous post. The Wonder Weeks 

There could be medical reasons why a baby doesn’t sleep through which I will post an article I read. 

I don’t believe in the Ferber method because of all the negative information I have read about this method of sleep training. I just do not have the heart to hear my child cry like that. Cortisol levels rise in a babies body, their heart rates increase, oxygen levels decrease, their only way of communicating with us and trusting we will be there for them is lost by the cry it out method, when they are left to cry for long periods of time. This makes it harder to fall asleep or settle them as well. 

I know every one is different and has different reasons for using sleep training. But this article just goes to show how it does effect a child’s mental & physical health in the moment and later on in life. 

This quote from the article just sums it up for me  “Ferber now says in interviews that he regrets some of the advice he’s given. He’s been quoted as saying that he feels badly that child health professionals are encouraging parents to leave very young babies to cry, and that it’s ok to co-sleep.”

Harvard Researchers who examined emotional learning, infant brain function and cultural differences claim that babies who are left to cry themselves to sleep suffer long-lasting damage to their nervous systems. The researchers claim that this makes these children more susceptible in later life to anxiety disorders, including panic attacks. 

 I’ll let you decide for yourself. 

The Case Against Ferber Sleep Training

Harvard Psychologists Say: Parents Who Raise ‘Good’ Kids, Do These 5 Things!

Another great article published by Harved Pyschologists.

I’m a firm believer in the 5 points they make. I think we all have our own parenting styles views and opinions in life but I think it’s safe to say these are the basic fundamentals. It’s amazing how much there is to think about when you have a child. You can do it by making sure it starts with you because that is where our children learn from. Us. 

Again spending quality time with your little ones. They are only young once and I want to spend as much time as I possibly can with our little girl. By singing songs with her, reading books, helping her work on the new skills she is learning at the moment which would be crawling or walking which ever she decides to surprise us with first. Which means spending most of my day bent over holding her hands for balance so she can practice walking everywhere. My back aches but she won’t need me to help her once she’s mastered how to walk because she’ll be trying to run and climb stairs and I’ll be chasing after her. I know I’m extremely blessed to be able to spend her first year with her to see her through all these important milestones and one I’ll never get back. So I’m making the most of ever minute I get with her during the day especially while the weather is good. 

Being a role model. I couldn’t agree more with this. My moms famous lasts words were always do as I say and not as I do, I laughed and still do because I believe that actions speak louder than words. Monkey see, monkey do. My mother was a great role model and it’s because of her I am half the woman I am today. She taught me to cook, clean, take pride in myself and the things that I do. I always say to friends and family. There is always something to be taken from a unpleasant experience. You learn from your mistakes and admit when you are wrong. Look for solutions to problems or issues. Pick yourself up and dust yourself off as I would say and try again. Remember to do the same with your little ones. They see everything you do and say. So think before you speak for words can not be taken back once they have been said and make sure you don’t do anything you wouldn’t want them doing. 

Teaching them values. Now this is something that always makes me think about my father and how successful he has been in life. He words to me the day I left home always stuck with me and were my biggest motivation in life to succeed and do well. To treat others the way I would like to be treated and to treat everyone with respect. To think about other people’s feelings and emotions. To be a reliable and responsible person that people can depend and rely upon. It goes a long way in life. By making us help around the house to earn our pocket money you soon learned the value of money and learned to appreciate the things you have. 

Teach them Gratitude. Now this is one thing I practice every day in my life and one thing I learnt on my path to happiness. The more grateful you are, the happier you are. The more you focus on the positive thing in life the more you attract into your life. I think I have learned some valuable lessons in life that have taught me to think twice, be wise and never to take anything for granted or to expect anything from anyone in life. But when you are kind and generous out of the goodness and kindness of your heart people will do the same for you. Just never expect it. 

Show them the bigger picture. To me that would be doing all the above. Be kind and considerate of others. Don’t be judgemental because you don’t know what struggles the other person is going through. Empathise with others. 

I don’t think these are that different to how our parents grew up and what we were taught growing up so let’s do the same and make sure we still have good children in this world. 

Harvard Psychologists Say: Parents Who Raise ‘Good’ Kids, Do These 5 Things!

Helping little ones with big emotions

How many of us have had issues or trouble dealing with emotions? Jealousy, sadness, anger and happiness are all emotions. We’ve all been through these emotions at some stage in our life. How we choose to deal with these emotions is what makes us stronger, wiser and grow as a person. 

How quick are you to react to a situation, only to take a moment to reflect and realise that maybe we could have dealt with the situation a little differently. Would it have changed the outcome? 

Now think about your little one, who has no life experience and only beginning to learn about the world they live in and how to cope with all these new feelings and emotions, which are new to them. They need and rely on us to show them and help them to cope with and deal with all these new emotions. 

It really is thought provoking for me as a mother to read some of these articles and to see things from a different prospective and it can also be daunting in the same breathe to think you really do need to be the best you can be if you’re going to help your little one blossom and grow into a well balanced young individual. To know that they can come to you and trust you to help them when they need you most. To think before you act or speak because words can’t be taken back once they’ve been spoken. They can only be forgiven. 

Here’s a great article on Helping little ones with big emotions

Positive gentle parenting. 

How many of us forget that toddlers are only young little people learning about the world that they live in and that it is up to us to help them grow and learn.  

These words really resonate with me maybe because I’m a firm believer that we need to help our children grow,  “it wasn’t my job to make him feel bad enough that he’d act better, but to help him feel valued, accepted, validated and wholeheartedly loved so that he could be his good, compassionate, kind, true self.”

When your toddler defies you, love is the answer

Be present with your child when they are with you. 

Another great article I found about being present with your child, in the moment as opposed to on your phone! I always try my best to be as present as possible with our little girl and to make sure I do as much housework etc when she sleeps so that I have more quality time to spend with her when she is awake. I know this won’t always be possible as she gets older and has fewer naps but for now that’s my goal. To focus on her and enjoy my time at home with her while I can.

https://www.mother.ly/life/living-in-the-moment-7-ways-to-enjoy-motherhood-more-by-being-present