Don’t let me forget their littleness…

Reading this makes me feel grateful to be able to enjoy the first year of our little girls life at home with her and in the same breathe it makes me a little heart sore to know that she’s almost a year old which means I’ll be returning to work and missing out on the days while she is growing up giving me only a short time with her each evening between bathtime, dinner and bedtime. 

Making me wish I was able to be a full time stay at home mom with her like we had growing up. Enjoy them while they are little because they sure do grow quickly. Cherish the days and time you have with them because they won’t be this little forever. 

Already our little girl is becoming more independent with each passing day. Crawling and working on her walking skills. Always holding out her hand for me to help her. Those little arms that wrap around you so tightly holding on to you for as long as she can. The wet open mouthed kisses. The giggles and laughter. The sound of those little feet learning to walk. 

Our little girl is growing up. 

Don’t let me forget their littleness

Dear Dads…

I read this and sent it to my other half. Us moms are hardly ever in many photos. It seems we’re always the ones behind the lens snapping photos of our beautiful children and their daddies. 

We need to be in more photos with our little ones so that one day when we are no longer around they have memories of us. To look back on remember how much we loved them. 

I often sit at night singing and reading to our little girl and think. These are the moments we need to capture these are the memories we want to be able to look back on when they are all grown up. 

Please dad remember to snap those sweet moments when mommy is ticketing them. Reading or singing to them or giving them cuddles or laughing with them. These are the things we want to remember and look back on too. 

Dear Dads

10 Ways to Guard your Daughter against Toxic Relationships. 

Wow. This really hit home, in so many ways. This is really something I will strive to do from the bottom of my heart. As if life isn’t cruel and tough enough. I hope that other moms and dad out there teach their sons the same values. 

10 Ways to Guard your Daughter against Toxic Relationships

Lewis’s Legacy Little Lives Matter 

Wow a very interesting article I came across and something I have done myself with a muslin!

This particular mother lost her baby son and has committed to helping others. 

This article on baby safety while sleeping in a pram during summer or out in the sun is extremely important to remember!

Did you know that by placing a blanket or muslin over your babies pram while asleep in their pram increases the temperature inside raising the temperature to dangerous levels just like a car causing baby to overheat and possibly death!!! 

If you ever see someone doing the same in hot weather in summer warm them to save a little persons life. 

Lewis’s Legacy Little Lives Matter

Mom shares heartbreaking death of Son to educate others on car seat safety

Wow. This is so sad but also a really great eye opener on car seat safety. Something I’m glad I took the time to invest in because nothing means more to me than the safety of our daughters life. 

5 point car seats are the best. We bought a Britax Römer Dualfix and it’s amazing and comfortable too.  So easy to keep clean as well. 

Mom shares heartbreaking death of son to educate others in car seat safety

How to defuse a child’s tantrum with one question. 

I absolutely loved this article and the woman who was kind enough to share this, because although our daughter can’t yet speak, I can see this being a great question in the further. 

She explained it perfectly. This is probably the first article I’ve read and thought this is a great thing to implement. Thank you. 

How to defuse a child’s tantrum with one question.

You can’t love too much: Attachement doesn’t slow growth, it fuels it. 

This was a great read about little ones and their attachments to us as mothers or parents.

This quote sums it up perfectly for me.

“Children can’t be too attached, they can only be not deeply attached. Attachment is meant to make our kids dependent on us so that we can lead them. It is our invitation for relationship that frees them to stop looking for love and to start focusing on growing.”

It was also a welcomed sigh of relief to know that despite what friends or family tell me, I know we have a healthy, happy little girl who is very much attached to me and rightly so. She has her moments when she just doesn’t want to go to daddy and only mommy will do. Secretly, I love that she’s a little mommies baby and so affectionate towards me, for now any way, it makes my heart melt with love for her. 

As much as we both laugh about it and think it’s cute and funny, I think people’s well meaning advice sometimes just causes unnecessary concern, that she maybe has too much of an attachement to me but at the end of the day I am her best friend and the only person she sees from the minute she wakes up, to the minute she goes to sleep and everyone else she see’s comes and goes. Daddy is obviously only home in the evenings after work and weekends which doesn’t give them much time together, so they have their own special little bond and relationship. 

It’s a great comfort knowing that our little Girl feels loved, safe and secure. It reassures me to know she’ll grow up to be a confident, happy little girl who knows she can count on me (us as a family) to be there for her and look after her and let her focus on growing up and learning. Being a child and enjoying life. 

You can’t love too much, Attachment doesn’t slow growth, it fuels it

The Case Against Ferber Sleep Training

I think we have been truly blessed with a little girl who sleeps really well. We count our blessing every day for such a content, healthy, happy little girl. 

I know friends and family that have little ones that have medical reasons for not sleeping well or that have never sleept through the night. I know that this causes many issues, like stress and postpartum depression, all the sleep deprivation leads to pure exhaustion and therefore parents become desperate and will try anything to get their child to sleep or sleep through the night. 

The truth is we as adults don’t sleep through the night and wake many times but are able to fall asleep again. We wake for water, to use the loo, a loud sound, too hot, too cold you get the idea. So why do we expect a baby to sleep through? 

I used my own method to teach our  daughter to fall asleep on her own. I used to hold her or rock her to sleep when she was a newborn. I read that falling asleep is something you can teach them to do from 6 months onwards. Sleeping through is also something they do themselves when they are mentally able to do so. So I used to rock her until she was drowsy and then put her down in her cot and pat her bum for a few minutes and then sit in the rocking chair in her room until she fell asleep. So she could see me and knew I was with her and eventually she would fall asleep on her own. If she fussed or moaned I would give it a minute or two and then pick her up if my attempts to calm and reassure her by telling her shhh… it’s sleepy time my love and start again if she didn’t settle by picking her up calming her down rocking tillshe was calm then stop rocking and put her back down in her cot. Sometimes she was hungry and would go down after nursing or giving her a bottle now that she is older and no longer breastfed. I never let her get worked up or cry for longer than a couple minutes because I know it would only take longer for her to fall asleep because the cortisol hormone increases in her system, making it harder to fall asleep. As well as all the other health issues mentioned in the article.  

She is generally pretty good at falling asleep on her own and sleeping through the night which she did on her own but there days that she won’t fall asleep on her own, except in my arms against my chest. In my opinion she is just a baby and only once too and obviously just needs comfort from me as she may not be feeling well, going through a mental leap, which I have mentioned in a previous post. The Wonder Weeks 

There could be medical reasons why a baby doesn’t sleep through which I will post an article I read. 

I don’t believe in the Ferber method because of all the negative information I have read about this method of sleep training. I just do not have the heart to hear my child cry like that. Cortisol levels rise in a babies body, their heart rates increase, oxygen levels decrease, their only way of communicating with us and trusting we will be there for them is lost by the cry it out method, when they are left to cry for long periods of time. This makes it harder to fall asleep or settle them as well. 

I know every one is different and has different reasons for using sleep training. But this article just goes to show how it does effect a child’s mental & physical health in the moment and later on in life. 

This quote from the article just sums it up for me  “Ferber now says in interviews that he regrets some of the advice he’s given. He’s been quoted as saying that he feels badly that child health professionals are encouraging parents to leave very young babies to cry, and that it’s ok to co-sleep.”

Harvard Researchers who examined emotional learning, infant brain function and cultural differences claim that babies who are left to cry themselves to sleep suffer long-lasting damage to their nervous systems. The researchers claim that this makes these children more susceptible in later life to anxiety disorders, including panic attacks. 

 I’ll let you decide for yourself. 

The Case Against Ferber Sleep Training

Your child is human too.

This is such a great article and I LOVE this quote. It’s so true! Read the article before making any assumptions that children shouldn’t be held accountable for disrespectful or bad behaviour but they are also human, just like us. 

“So often, children are punished for being human. They are not allowed to have grumpy moods, bad days, disrespectful tones, or bad attitudes. Yet, we adults have them all the time. None of us are perfect. We must stop holding our children to a higher standard of perfection than we can attain ourselves.”

Your child is human too